Sami Yusuf - Ya Allahu Ya Rahmanu
Well it's time again, my mum is looking to get her daughters hitched ...
I was watching the above video and perhaps in a degree I agree with him, I have burns on my legs, do I have low self esteem due to this, I'm not sure. However that does mean that if some guy calls me pretty I think I have burns and if you knew would those words have ever been said? Let's not get started on the other imperfections I think I have, but that's my insecurities, there are some good guys that will not see these things and I thank Allah for allowing me to see this, as maybe I would have seen the scars as some impediment.
Marriage, a relationship that brings together 2 families and bring communities together even if only for a short period of time. To hopefully find the lifetime companion in which half the deen can be worked by working together to help each other in our faith and family.
However I have been told many a time that my ideals are too lofty and that I am looking through rose-tinted glasses, I would disagree, I have lived the life I was given for some I have lived a harsh life although when I look at the situation in comparison to the rest of the world I have lived in luxury and am thankful for everything I was given. I would rather look for the best in a relationship and a person then try and play the supposed realist and lower my standards, an example of this was someone telling me that why should I care if my potential partner smokes(?!?).
The biggest thing I look for in a partner is whether I believe they will be a good parent, at the end of the day, it is the future generations that will shape the world and it's these unborn souls that I worry about. I recall my last words to my father and how it still affects me to this day. I forgave my father for he never really did anything to me, it's how he damaged other folk that I sometimes wonder if it's my forgiveness that matters.
And looking back I may have even refused a future because of this fear I have my myself being a parent. I pray that those people found worthy partners because they are wonderful people and deserve that much.
